I performed this wedding ceremony yesterday in San Clemente, California for a buddy of mine, one of my college roommates. He was the baseball player and I the basketball player. He and his fiancee (now wife) asking me to
officiate was like gettin' picked up for a 10-day contract in the
league (NBA). Because when give you charge of their DAY, it's a huge
investment of trust. In some cases, you might be the only person they
know who legally can perform a wedding LOL. I was a bit surprised 'cause he and I haven't been that close over the
years since undergrad. I don't know if there was a more beautiful place to get married as you can see...
No matter...I wrestled with some things personally yesterday given my role. When you're up there in front of this couple on the perfect day and you realize you're wearing a moth-eaten suit that's dated along with the tie, it messes with you. My shoes weren't shined either. Thankfully I was clean. But I didn't have my glasses and my shirt felt over sized. You see where I'm headed? I was distracted.
There was something far more significant going on and I was being haunted by the demons of comparison, arguably an athlete's greatest nemesis. In the end, I remembered just about everything necessary for a legal wedding to be conducted, particularly when I headed for home, stopped for gas and raced back to the venue to have the bride, groom and witnesses sign their marriage license. That would've been a fail far worse than my moth-eaten Hugo Boss. What I learned though was that I need a new suit or two because that's a shame I ain't bought one since 2008. And secondly, I'm qualified! My homie and his wife asked me because they believed I could improve their chances of having the greatest day possible. They needed help as well that they felt I could provide. No dime-a-dozen here, even though that's what tugs at us all. At day's end, There's a reason why dudes get 10-day contracts in the NBA. They deserve a shot. Recognize who and where you are. You made the team for a reason and it's not because of how you look in your uniform (most of the time LOL).
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